9 yr old's Dad. (v.3.0)

Okay, same dinner from the last two posts..

The entire conversation started because my friend's husband asked me:
"When you get older, what do you want the twins to call you"

Ummmmmmmm... "Mom" would be good..??

Usually I am faced with "what do you want the twins to call their firstmother?"

They can call her "mom", "momma J", "J", "hey you" (though I'd prefer they pick something more polite then "hey you")

Bleh, Titles... labels... While I DO love to carry my title/label as "mom", having any addition to those titles just sucks.

While I do use "adoptive mom/firstmom" when i talk about things sometimes, it is to distinguish between who I am referring to in a given moment, most of the time I have found myself feeling much more comfortable simply saying "mom" when referring to myself and J.

Anyhow.. yeah

Titles... they can be frusterating at times.

Here is a great poem regarding titles.

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This poem is untitled.

This poem has no title.

This poem wants no title.

This poem rebels against any

appropriate, feasible and/or

logical title that you may happen to think of.

The first line of this poem

is not to be supplemented as a title.

It is not even to be referred to as:

“The Poem That is Untitled”

or “That Untitled Poem”

or “Untitled.”

It is to have no name, heading

or abbreviated term or reference of any type.

And this poem upholds the God-given right

to remain untitled.

If it is ever to be referred to,

it is to be recited in its entirety

and read with all sincerity.

This poem is untitled

is never to be titled

and shall not ever have a title.

This poem also reserves the right to peter out.

(footnote: this poem is diminished not quite finished)










..this poem is by Cameron Semmens

(good definition of a parable)

R. Grace Imathiu uses this poem to illustrate a point:

Our tradition has not done us any favors by giving the parable the popular title “The Parable of the Prodigal Son”. The parable did not originally come with a title. And let it be noted, I have nothing against titles; they are often helpful. But titles can sometimes be harmful and even dangerous. Titles put a good story in a cage and mislead us into thinking that naming the thing tells us everything there is to know about it. Titles tend to domesticate and tame good stories until they become easy and mundane and impotent. Titles can make us lazy and complacent..
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In regards to "Birthmom", how many of us have painted a picture of what a "birthmom" is? The title alone telling us everything we think there is to know about a "birthmom". We miss the truth when we block it with titles..